“I’m not beautiful like you, I’m beautiful like ME” – Unknown
Today I got to celebrate another birthday with my son. He turned 13. I still can’t believe I have a 13 year old but I’m even more shocked that I have a 20 year old. As I was looking back at pictures of my son I just kept saying how cute and tiny he was. I think that’s what every parent says about their kids. I then looked back at baby pictures of myself and thought the exact same thing. I wasn’t a tiny child, but I was cute with my little pigtails and ribbons. I couldn’t help but smiling.
This made me think. When did we stop liking ourselves? What happened to us that made us question if we were cute or small or funny? Did someone tell us that or did we just tell ourselves? For many people I know they can remember the exact moment when that happened. This post isn’t about that moment. This post is about the moment you change that language.
In our mission to write our “To Don’t List” I also want you to begin to write something you like about yourself. I know it sounds crazy, but I also know some people may struggle. I’m going to leave this comment right here. If you don’t like you how can you expect anyone else to like you. You have to know your own worth and learn to value yourself. Stop waiting on someone else to validate you. It’s time you learn to love yourself.
Today I decided I loved my hair. I didn’t always love it. I always wanted hair like someone else. I can’t say that I wanted straight hair or curly hair. As I kid I just wanted hair like other people. What’s funny is my hair was in the middle of my back and I hacked it off around 7th grade. People would have killed to have hair as long as mine and I was chopping mine off. Let’s say I didn’t appreciate myself in 7th grade. I’m sure you all can relate.
I want you to notice the grey which I love. I’ve earned every strand of that grey and even when I dye my hair the grey doesn’t really go away. I’ve had grey hair since I was eight. Both my kids also have that trait. Notice how some parts are curly and others are straight. It simply does what it wants and honestly I’ve learned to be ok with that. It can be long or short. Depends on the day and what it plans on doing.
My hair does what it does depending on the day. I can’t tame it and I’ve stopped trying. I’ve just learned to love it as it is. Imagine how amazing I will be when I learn to love myself the way I love my hair. Hopefully this exercise gets me one step closer.
So add to the “To Don’t List” don’t be hard on yourself. Don’t beat yourself up. Don’t do yourself any harm. Hopefully when you are done you smile just a little.